Porn is Destroying Your Marriage - Here's How to Turn it Around

This Hurts Your Wife More than You Want to Admit...

There's part of you that wants to believe it's not a big deal. What's the harm in letting off some steam with a bit of porn?

Watching porn is not like cheating after all... right?

Why does she have to make such a big deal out of this?

But then, there's the part of you that can see the damage you're doing. You know that whenever she asks you about it, you downplay your porn use. 

She knows you watch porn, but she doesn't know how often you do it or what kind of stuff you watch.

And if she knew...

Well, if you really take a step back and look at it objectively, you can see why she'd be upset.

You have your reasons. You have your unmet needs. And often it feels justified for you to watch porn. To escape into that fantasy land.

But you also know that it is creating distance between you and your wife. Your porn use creates more of the feelings that you want to escape... with more porn use.

The Cold, Hard Facts

There has been a lot of research into how pornography use affects relationships and the results don't look good.

• A study from the University of Oklahoma found that people who start using porn in a marriage are about twice as likely to get divorced.
• Multiple studies confirm the direction of cause and effect, too: researchers come to the conclusion that porn use is causing problems in the relationship, not the other way around. 
• A large scale analysis by Texas Tech University found that porn use has a clear negative effect on couples' sexual satisfaction.
• Qualitative studies show that women commonly feel rejected, betrayed, undesired and inadequate when they learn that their partner watches porn.
• And the list goes on...

Data paints a clear picture and the Internet is littered with stories of just how much pain and anguish porn use causes in relationships:

Too many men have lost their marriages and everything they built together with their partners because of porn addiction.

You are here because you've decided not to become one of them. With that, you've already made a very smart move.

Do You Use Porn Because of Relationship Problems? Or Do You Have Relationship Problems Because of Porn?

As a man, you have sexual needs. Most men have stronger sexual needs and urges than most women. 

This alone can be a difficult gap to navigate in a relationship.

So, when your needs are unmet, what are you to do?

Unfortunately, porn use is a "solution" that makes the problem worse. It gives you some temporary relief, but it makes your relationship pains grow over time.

Even if porn doesn't feel like cheating to you, you are directing your sexual energy and attention away from your wife and towards something else. Porn is something that blunts you, takes away your edge. Sexually and otherwise.

Your wife feels less desired, you feel less motivated, your presence becomes weaker and more dull.

Of course, this doesn't set her loins on fire and so you feel even more deprived of the desire and pleasure you crave... and so more porn it is!

And when you still do have sex with your wife, porn also makes it worse. 

Because it lowers your performance in the bedroom.

Because it changes and distorts your expectations of what sex should be like.

Because you end up disconnecting from your partner and fantasizing about porn instead of being present and in the moment with her.

So: less desire, less sex, worse sex... all of which sends you back to more porn!

There's only one solution: you have to break the cycle.

This is NOT About Suppressing Your Desires or Settling for Less!

Porn addiction comes with a lot of shame and those feelings of shame get tangled up with our feelings about sex and desire in general.

Maybe you've had thoughts like "I wish I could just be less horny!" or "I hate that I keep thinking with my penis instead of my head!"

But overcoming porn addiction is not about feeling less desire, suppressing your sexual urges or enduring a life full of unmet sexual needs.

The goal of the coaching we do together is not for you to get better at depriving yourself of pleasure. It's not about becoming the guy who can successfully fight the constant urge to watch porn for the rest of his life.

The goal is for you to no longer have to fight those urges, because you'll completely lose interest in porn.

And that is only possible if we uncover the shame and fear that is tied up with your porn addiction and help you develop a healthier relationship to sex, sexuality and desire.

The goal is not that you experience less pleasure in your life, but that you experience more of it!

You Can't Solve Your Porn Problem Without Becoming a Better Man

Porn addiction is not an isolated issue in your life. We can't surgically remove porn from your life while leaving everything else untouched.

And that's a good thing!

The process of overcoming porn addiction will teach you a lot about yourself. And as you'll discover, the solution to quitting porn involves becoming a better man who lives a better life.

Research shows that porn addiction is highly associated with negative emotions, a sense of meaninglessness and a wish to escape.

We use porn like a pain killer: it helps distract us from things we don't want to deal with and soothes our emotional pain.

You'll always "need" porn as long as you leave those things untouched.

But if you confront the issues you're trying to run away from and resolve your emotional pain, it changes who you are and suddenly, porn isn't necessary anymore.

This is the work you'll be doing with me.

Change How You Show Up in Your Relationship & in The World

In my work with men's circles and as a martial arts teacher, I have seen this over and over again: men are timid and holding themselves back.

Countless men are not comfortable with their own masculine power. They prefer to hide themselves and stay small and unassuming.

We've been taught to fear, deny and suppress ourselves and that includes suppressing our sexual desires.

Unfortunately, when we suppress things, they find another way out. It's like trying to push a beach ball under water. You can put pressure on it, but the more you push, the harder it will eventually pop out of the water again.

This way of keeping yourself small also shows up in your relationship, whether you realize it or not. You are not being your best self, you are not showing up in all your glory.

And one consequence of this suppression is that you use porn like a pressure valve.

Through our work together, you will learn to integrate your masculine power and become more comfortable with it.

And the work you do on yourself will change how you show up in your relationship. 

Our focus here is squarely on YOU and what you can do to change. This is based on a Stoic principle: focus all your energy on the things you can control and don't worry about the things you can't control.

The best thing you can do for your relationship and to address any issues you have with your wife is to focus on yourself.

Turn Your Porn Addiction Into Opportunity

I know, right now you are struggling. You have this problem in your life and in your relationship. You wish you DIDN'T have this problem so you could feel better about yourself and focus on other areas of your life.

But the very fact that you are here, reading this page, shows incredible promise.

The simple truth is that we rarely do anything unless we get a kick in the butt. That's just human nature.

And because of that, you are better off right now than if you were just a little more comfortable. 

Millions of men are in bad relationships and won't do anything about it because they are just too comfortable. They have problems, but their problems aren't quite bad enough to get them to take action.

Years, even decades will pass with them never stepping up, never making more of themselves until some day, regret kicks in.

And in the worst case, by then it's too late.

Your porn addiction will be your catalyst to build a better version of you, a better relationship and a better life than you can even imagine, right now.

All you have to do is decide that you will no longer put up with this. Decide that you will use this problem as your springboard into personal growth.

Don't back down. Don't get comfortable. You were absolutely right to start looking for solutions and by being here, you are already so close to making big things happen!

You Can Free Yourself from Porn for Good - You Just Have to Know How!

Let's be clear: porn addiction is a completely solvable problem.

I know it can feel like an impossible struggle, especially if you've been "trying hard" and using willpower.

But if you arm yourself with the right tools & the right knowledge, you can finally beat this addiction, heal your brain and enjoy the benefits of being porn free.

As you can see, it is possible to turn this around, even if the situation seems hopeless right now.

And the best chance you have of changing this and transforming your life and relationship in the shortest time possible is to get hands-on help.

Not only will you learn the most effective strategies for quitting porn, you'll also get guidance and accountability, every step of the way!

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Here's exactly how we will work together to eliminate your porn addiction for good:

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Do Your Future Self a Favor: Take Action Today

The best time to quit porn? That would have been the day you discovered it.

We can't time travel, so we need to settle for the second best time to quit porn, which is today. Right now, in fact.

It's easy to put something off and tell yourself "I'll do it soon... maybe tomorrow".

And before you know it, years have passed, you kept putting it off and you look back with deep regret.

Don't let that be you. 

Future you will either wish you had done something about this problem right now...

...or be grateful that you did in fact do something right now!

The only wrong choice you can make is to walk away.

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