Get Clear About What You Want

Growing up, most of us guys get bombarded with all kinds of ideas of what it means to be a man and how a man is supposed to do this whole love and relationship thing.

You need to be charming and suave like James Bond. You need to be huge and shredded like a Batman or Thor. You need to be a stoic badass, always keeping your cool, always knowing the answer. You need to be a player who can seduce any supermodel looking girl, any time...

Of course, all of that is bullshit.

And most of these ideas are being spread by people who want to sell you something.

This is all just a lot of noise about what you "should" want.

Key word: should.

Anytime we do things that we think we should do vs. things we actually want to do... we feel unhappy.

This is why in today's exercise, we're going to identify your Ideal Love Life vision.

A vision of what you actually want, specifically in the area of sex and love, because that's the area that has been clouded by years of porn use.

Exercise: Your Ideal Love Life

Ask yourself: what does my ideal love life look like? This includes: dating, romance, sex, relationship, marriage, family... whatever comes to mind!
Allow yourself to write whatever comes up, without judgement. Like the brain dumping exercise, just keep the pen moving.
Examine what you wrote and identify the things you wrote down that you should want and the ones that you actually want.
Remove the things you should want and keep the things you actually want.
Rewrite your vision with only the things you actually want.

Action Steps

Watch this lesson's video
Follow the steps above to write out your Ideal Love Life vision

Day 19 – What is Your Ideal Love Life?

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